A woman in Bentinho’ No Limits Society program talks about how she has a history of being overly self-disciplined and hard on herself, and that this no longer resonates for her. She asks Bentinho for guidance on how to develop a more aligned sense of self-discipline—when it’s appropriate to push herself and when it’s appropriate to just play and be.

In general, don’t push yourself to do any task, unless it’s an emergency situation or a commitment you must follow through on in order to be in alignment with your honour and duty and integrity. Other than in these situations, when you don’t feel like doing something, there is either guidance or resistance in this feeling.

If you don’t feel like doing something you feel you should be doing, pause yourself and get clear on WHY you don’t want to do it. Is the resistance coming from a place of guidance and excitement, or is it coming from avoidance and negative definitions you’ve applied to the situation? If you have resistance towards a part of your true calling, it’s helpful to see that it’s because you’re defining the task at hand in a negative way and this is preventing you from entering the flow state of excitement. If you transmute or drop the negative definitions you’ve created about the task, you may find that it is actually filled with playfulness and excitement. Then your energy will return for these very things which, at the moment, do not feel exciting.

So, don’t force yourself to what you don’t want to do. Instead, force yourself to sit down and get really clear on what it is you truly want. When you’re reconnected to what it is you truly want, who you know you are, who you want to be, and how you want to show up, then you will know what you want to do and you will WANT to do it. Your actions should flow from inspiration as much as possible.